Secondary [Born Again] Virginity

Russ Tenhoff
Dec 1, 2013
8 min read

EXCERPTS;Gladys Wangwiro & Katie McKinney

I have preached on this... How God can and does restore everything...

Galatians 6:1-3 6 Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too. 2 By helping each other with your troubles, you truly obey the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks he is important when he really is not, he is only fooling himself.

How to Start Over If You’ve Lost Your Virginity

Secondary virginity [Born Again Virginity] is a decision to abstain from sexual activity, starting with today and continuing until the day you get married. It’s an opportunity to start over. Your physical virginity may be lost, but virginity is more than just a physical state. It’s an attitude, a frame of mind. It’s manifested in the way you look at yourself and others.

Secondary virginity is a time to change bad habits and heal past wounds. It allows you to clean and renew yourself prior to marriage.

Why do people choose Secondary Virginity?

Young adults say...

“I didn’t like being used.”

“We were so much into sex that we never became friends.”

“Just because I made a mistake doesn’t mean I have to keep on making the same mistakes.”

“I’m going to wait because I have hurt a lot of people as well as myself and I want to change my life for the best, for me and for my future children.”

Steps to Becoming a Secondary Virgin

1) Make a firm commitment to save yourself for marriage from now on, and believe you can do it. (Because you can!)

2) Get away from people, places, things and situations that weaken your self-control.Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is avoid people who tempt us.

3) Avoid intense hugging, passionate kissing and anything else that leads to lustful thoughts and behavior. Anything beyond a brief, simple kiss can quickly become dangerous.

4) Find non-physical ways to show your love and appreciation.

5) Remember that anyone can start over. Including you! When you focus on commitment and self-discipline, you can control your impulses

Jesus always makes a way for us to start again...

Pastor Russ

On A Physical NOTE:

Human skin is an amazing organ -- protective, waterproof, and exceedingly useful. It's also constantly changing and regenerating itself. That said, what happens to dead skin cells? You might be a little grossed out to find out where they go and just how many you lose each day.

Your skin is composed of several layers. The layer you can see is called the epidermis. It's composed of cells made of keratin, a hard substance that also forms your hair and nails. The individual cells are called keratinocytes [source: National Geographic].

New keratinocytes grow at the lowest level of the epidermis, which bonds with the next layer, the dermis. The new skin cells gradually push their way to the to player. When they reach the top, they die and are "weathered" by the environment and your daily activities. The top "dead" layer is called the stratumcorneum. Eventually, the dead cells break away from the epidermis and fall off, making room for newer cells growing up from below. It takes roughly one month for new cells to get all the way to the top layer, meaning the skin you have a month from today will be completely new compared to the skin you have now.

If you're wondering exactly how many skin cells fall off, get ready for some staggering numbers. Scientists estimate that the human body is made up of around 10 trillion cells in total. Your skin makes up about 16 percent of your body weight, which means you have roughly 1.6 trillion skin cells [source: BBC]. Of course, this estimate can vary tremendously according to a person's size. The important thing is that you have a lot of skin cells. Of those billions of skin cells, between 30,000 and 40,000 of them fall off every hour. Over a 24-hour period, you lose almost a million skin cells [source: Boston Globe].

Where do they all go? The dust that collects on your tables, TV, windowsills and on those picture frames that are so hard to get clean is made mostly from dead human skin cells. In other words, your house is filled with former bits of yourself.In one year, you'll shed more than 8 pounds (3.6 kilograms) of dead skin. It gets even grosser: Your house is also filled with trillions of microscopic lifeforms called dust mites that eat your old dead skin.

So What am I Trying to Say?

Leviticus 12

Rules for New Mothers

[Rules for Purification after blood discharged from intercourse,ministration or birth]

Old Testament provision for Purification;

12 The Lord said to Moses, 2 “Tell the people of Israel this: ‘If a woman gives birth to a son, she will become unclean for seven days, as she is unclean during her monthly period. 3 On the eighth day the boy must be circumcised. 4 Then it will be thirty-three days before she becomes clean from her loss of blood. She must not touch anything that is holy or enter the Holy Tent until her time of cleansing is finished. 5 But if she gives birth to a daughter, the mother will be unclean for two weeks, as she is unclean during her monthly period. It will be sixty-six days before she becomes clean from her loss of blood.

6 “‘After she has a son or daughter and her days of cleansing are over, the new mother must bring certain sacrifices to the Meeting Tent. She must give the priest at the entrance a year-old lamb for a burnt offering and a dove or young pigeon for a sin offering. 7 He will offer them before the Lord to make her clean so she will belong to the Lord again; then she will be clean from her loss of blood. These are the teachings for a woman who gives birth to a boy or girl.

8 “‘If she cannot afford a lamb, she is to bring two doves or two young pigeons, one for a burnt offering and one for a sin offering. In this way the priest will make her clean so she will belong to the Lord again, and she will be clean.’” {JESUS is all the LAMB you'll EVER need}

Your new abstinence is designed by God and HIS Grace allows for even a physical restoration.

Rituals still carried out are those related to nidda [Minstrel Period], according to which a menstruating woman must avoid contact with her husband, especially avoiding sexual contact,and may only resume contact after she has first immersed herself fully in a mikvah [Purification] of living water seven days after her menstruation has ceased.

In FACT, though your Hyman may be lost, with no activity over so many months, the vaginal area can seal up again [clot] reproducing bleeding for intercourse with your husband to come....

Like the sin, the skin is sloughed off for a Spiritual & Physical Purification...

The door is not more important than the house... The door is created to protect the contents of the house... In the same way, the Hyman is a door to the womb... It is not the womb nor the most important. It is just a door... But after the door is removed, better care and due diligence is needed to protect the contents!

It is important to note that you can loose your Hyman [virginity?] through accidents, vigorous sports and other activities excluding sex... What do we say to these women? The resulting effect is the same though they kept themselves pure... A woman who has a miscarriage suffers the same as one who has an abortion... They both suffer loss and both still need GRACE.

Go and sin no more...

God made away... Jesus saved the day...

2 Corinthians 5:16 From this time on we do not think of anyone as the world does. In the past we thought of Christ as the world thinks, but we no longer think of him in that way. 17 If anyone belongs to Christ, there is a new creation. The old things have gone; everything is made new! 18 All this is from God. Through Christ, God made peace between us and himself, and God gave us the work of telling everyone about the peace we can have with him. Lamentations 3:21 But I have hope when I think of this: 22 The Lord’s love never ends; his mercies never stop. 23 They are new every morning; Lord, your loyalty is great. 24 I say to myself, “The Lord is mine, so I hope in him.” Isaiah 1:18 The Lord says, “Come, let us talk about these things. Though your sins are like scarlet, they can be as white as snow. Though your sins are deep red [blood], they can be white like wool. 19 If you become willing and obey me, you will eat good crops from the land. Isaiah 58:11-12 The Lord will always lead you. He will satisfy your needs in dry lands and give strength to your bones. You will be like a garden that has much water, like a spring that never runs dry.12 Your people will rebuild the old cities that are now in ruins; you will rebuild their foundations. You will be known for repairing the broken places and for rebuilding the roads and houses. Romans 5:19 One man disobeyed God, and many became sinners. In the same way, one man obeyed God, and many will be made right. 20 The law came to make sin worse. But when sin grew worse, God’s grace increased. 21 Sin once used death to rule us, but God gave people more of his grace so that grace could rule by making people right with him. And this brings life forever through Jesus Christ our Lord. None of this is an opinion... Scripture tells us of our Forgiveness and Salvation from ALL sin... Just because you don't understand something, doesn't make you right... It makes you ignorant... Hebrews 4:12 God’s word is alive and working and is sharper than a double-edged sword. It cuts all the way into us, where the soul and the spirit are joined, to the center of our joints and bones. And it judges the thoughts and feelings in our hearts. 13 Nothing in all the world can be hidden from God. Everything is clear and lies open before him, and to him we must explain the way we have lived. 14 Since we have a great high priest, Jesus the Son of God, who has gone into heaven, let us hold on to the faith we have. 15 For our high priest is able to understand our weaknesses. He was tempted in every way that we are, but he did not sin. 16 Let us, then, feel very sure that we can come before God’s throne where there is grace. There we can receive mercy and grace to help us when we need it. Psalm 73:21 When my heart was sad and I was angry, 22 I was senseless and stupid. I acted like an animal toward you. 23 But I am always with you; you have held my hand. 24 You guide me with your advice, and later you will receive me in honor. 25 I have no one in heaven but you; I want nothing on earth besides you. 26 My body and my mind may become weak, but God is my strength. He is mine forever.